“If you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
-Marilyn Monroe
Before anything, I would like to accommodate some cred to Marilyn Monroe for stating such a truthful fact and to my UB friend Hakeem for speaking this quote in class, which sparked my mind.
I heard a question today that began as many young and old men’s questions have begun, “Why do girls…..?” Today it was “Why do girls use that quote from Marilyn Monroe?” There could be many explanations for this question but mine is a bit deep and complex.
First of all, it is a lot easier for guys to get ready for the day and look good than it is for woman. We have a lot more to worry about: hair, makeup, eyebrows, clothes, shoes, and everything in between. We try hard everyday to impress people with our looks and to match societies image of what looks good. So when we take a “bum day,” as some would say, people are quick to judge: Why you letting yourself go today? Word, nice outfit.(sarcastically) Or just the facial expressions.
Ladies, have you ever just woke up, looked at the clock, hit snooze and thought “If I don’t do my hair today I can get 20 extra minutes of sleep. Ohhh and my grey sweat pants are clean…my black shirt….yeahh….30 more minutes!” All women out there know the stress that goes into appearance. We just need a break from it sometimes but some people don’t understand why. That is a good question; Why? Well with hard work comes some breaks. The fact that people don’t see how being a woman in today’s society is tough leaves woman confused on how to express their concerns and pushes them to not even want to explain. Luckily Marilyn was there to help us out, thanks Marilyn.
Now on a bit of a different note, there is just the plain fact of us being ourselves. Personally I do not wear make up except for special occasions, I wear sweat shorts/pants, big shirts, tang tops and most of the time my hair goes up at one point in the day. The days that I look my best is, once again, for special occasions. That’s just me, that’s just natural. I am not sure what is natural for you but what ever is your “natural” should be good enough. Those who can not appreciate “natural” should not get extravagant. Simply put, those who do not appreciate a little, don’t deserve a lot.
So far some readers may understand where I am coming from and what I am trying to explain. Those of who you don’t, well, here are a couple examples explaining the point of this quote. Can my readers think of any?
-Its like cake. If you cant appreciate one slice fresh out of the oven, undecorated, none-frosted and maybe even a little burnt on the sides, then you don’t deserve it all frosted, cooled off, and ready to serve on a silver platter.
-You know that one teacher in your school who seems like they are hyped up on caffeine like there is no tomorrow? Well one day the teacher is a little tired and worn out so they take a break and lay low for the day. People start to ask questions and the teacher responds “Listen, we have fun every other day, I deserve a day of rest and you all deserve a day of calm learning.”
I am going to leave you, my readers, with those stories. But first I ask that all women take a chance to respond to my explanation about this quote and how you all feel about it. Good or bad comments are all welcome. Your opinion matters and is appreciated too. Thanks, I’m out. M.T.C (more to come)
